You’ve heard yourself say it most likely. “If I get to,..then I will....” or “When I ....then, I’ll”...
I call it the “Platform Effect”. It’s when we place our reward or dream life on this pedestal that is attached to the end of this statement which gives us a feeling and hopefulness that “when we get there”, things will be that much better. We prolong the reward to what we want “until” that happens. It makes the future seem so much brighter. I used to do this in my life SO much, and I still do it. I think it has a double edge sword effect though. On one not, it can motivate us to push and strive to achieve and on another note, if we keep moving the platform or the “carrot” so to speak, then we can easily get discouraged and quit on that dream all together making it seemingly unreachable.

I clearly remember doing this my whole life. There was so much that my whole like I “blamed” the physical weight I carried on. It was the block between me and everything I ever wanted to be. I was chubby as a kid, fat as a teen, and kept that going through adulthood. Practically everything had a platform in my mind that revolved around “weight”. For years, I had seemed to think that the solution to all my Soul’s problems lied in getting the weight off me. Whatever problem on the surface I had, I used to think, it had some underlying attachment to the “weight” and the “torment” of it my entire life. And it did, for the most part! Even down right into relationships, inner and outter, intelligence, spirituality, health, and I remember clearly doing this over and over in my mind. I wondered my whole life if I was just not destined to live in a place of having “reached” this place I would always put on a pedestal? Would I torment myself in my mind for years? For life? When was I finally going to approve of myself in the deepest sense?

Well, yesterday, I remembered the platform I had given myself years ago and said, you know what, let’s do it. The past year I have loved myself unconditionally. The weight has and is melting off with ease and consistent effort and action on my behalf. I stared at myself in the mirror and thought, “hair is hair! Chop!” So, I chopped my hair yesterday. Totally random, but it’s not. I remember one of the “pedestal” things I would say to myself was “my face is too round” and “I can’t wear that hair style, it will look stupid and make me look fatter”. Sad, but true. That was my internal dialogue.

You have no idea, how hard I fought and still do to change any limiting thought and transform it into an empowering one. Well, yesterday, I had reached the peak of what I felt a new high! I started my fitness journey at size 16 pants, and I had always admired my little sister. So fit and trim and would wear things that I could NEVER fit into. Yesterday, she gave me her blue shorts as I’ve dropped like 40 lbs and tons of sizes since and I slip them off having felt a bit bloated from the past days and they fit like a glove. I took them off to go shower and then I glance at the tag and got SHOCKED. The tag said, size “Levi’s 1”. I put them on and left the house and said, “Go you!”

I ranted of joy to my hair stylist that I just met who we are bartering services for Hypnotherapy and I couldn’t believe it. Size 1. That has never been a goal and in fact, I surrendered my weight to God in my #LoveYourselfMadly process. I felt onto of the world. Still do, mainly beacause I had made a committment to myself in January that I would STOP doing that to myself. I started living in love with who I am now and that’s when I started operating from a peaceful joyous place and the weight started melting off easily. I released a lot of the emotional baggage and it feels good. I feel beautiful inside and out. I loved my cut. I met the best souls as a result of my aura being so happy.

What I have come to realize is that “there are so many things that we can enjoy in the NOW.” Those very simplicities that will help us through the process even more, now. I didn’t need to wait until I shed the weight. I could have done that for myself a long time ago in a more bold manner. It was symbolic, though. It was deeper than that, then. It was a way to push myself in the subtlest ways. I mean, I’m a latin woman, I have curves for LIFe. So no matter what I will always be that way. Meaty, baby! haha. Those suckers felt good on though. I knew I had the same blood as my sis and one day I could get there! To wear her clothes is so crazy!

I feel ALIVE. This year has been one of so many allowances and awakenings. I truly would love to empower you today, my Soul Sister to never quit. Ever. I don’t care how long it takes, be not discouraged by the journey, be discouraged by the quitting. We can’t live that way. That’s why I love coaching. It allows me to never quit on myself. This is just the beginning. What else could happen in the year that comes? Keep going. I can help you. I can’t recognize my body or life anymore. It’s surreal.

I will say, that the hair does change the whole VIBE of my life now. I love it.

Healthy Mind, Body and Soul. That matters. We can’t heal without being in alignment.

I can only imagine who you could become too. Why not you, right?

I hope these inspire you, my Soul Sister. I believe in you.

Just know, that you are destined to succeed. I’m so happy to help you in every way. You can overcome the demons of the mind and I know it. You can change and be new. I know it. You can be the Queen of the most amazing soul within you and I know it. I’m going to challenge you give me 90 days of your life to start with me. You are 90 days away from reaching a “If I, then I....” place you may have done to yourself as well. Let’s get that platform to become one that IS reachable. Never quit. That’s all. I’m off to a Christian music concert. My new local coach that joined my team invited and I said, “YES!” So let’s go. I will be waiting for YOU.

If you would like to join my Soul Sister Coach Tribe, message me. I would be happy to nuture you to be the BEST version of you possible. Love, Alta. #LoveYourselfMadly